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What to Do When Your Boss Betrays You – Harvard Business Review

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Read What to Do When Your Boss Betrays You, by Ron Carucci from Harvard Business Review, July 23, 2019. Part of WiFi (What I Find Interesting) Wednesday.

“Boss betrayal can hinder our ability to trust others, remain optimistic and resilient during difficult times, and accurately judge complex situations. Our brains often process betrayal as trauma, and we expect that trauma to be repeated. Hurt and guarded, we sometimes engage in behaviors that are meant to be protective but have unintended consequences. When this happens, it’s not our boss’s behavior that should concern us. It’s our own.”

By Ron Carucci, Harvard Business Review, July 23, 2019

I have read many bloggers share their negative work experiences and frame it as trauma. While I can’t speak to whether this is true, but I believe our brain does process the event like it does trauma. Also I believe that we sometimes behave, later, with negative and self-destructive behavior.

Now I am reminded that once I left a negative work experience, I behaved just like I had been taught by my previous supervisor. And then had to live with the regret of what I had done.

“If you work for a boss who habitually betrays, get out from under them as soon as possible. Until then, do whatever you must to protect yourself from hardening into a person you don’t recognize.” 

By Ron Carucci, Harvard Business Review, July 23, 2019

This is the advice I give to any and all new professionals now. I sometimes believe I stayed too long at some jobs and had to undo some of the damage at the next institution. Protecting yourself doesn’t mean shutting down, but it does mean need to own your own personal narrative. In what ways have your learned to protect yourself and stay true to your values?

Read What to Do When Your Boss Betrays You, by Ron Carucci from Harvard Business Review, July 23, 2019. Part of WiFi (What I Find Interesting) Wednesday.


For Your Professional & Personal Development

Sometimes, we need help to work with a bad boss. Here are some books to help you gain some new skills.

A Survival Guide for Working With Bad Bosses: Dealing With Bullies, Idiots, Back-stabbers, And Other Managers from Hell by Gini Scott

Managing Up: How to Move up, Win at Work, and Succeed with Any Type of Boss by Mary Abbajay

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