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Part of WiFi (What I Find Interesting) Wednesday. May I Suggest We All Practice?

Read May I Suggest We All Practice? by Beth Niernberg, from Permission.To.Human on, March 16, 2021

My friend and nearby neighbor Beth Niernberg is a therapist working in the greater Boston area. She put together some thoughts I had about recent life: how do we go back to what used to feel normal?

I don’t want to call it ‘normal’ but there was once a life where people gathered outside their bubbles. People said hello and lingered less than six feet away. Travel was something that happened further than a mile away. Even jobs were things that people did away from home!

But there is worry in the air:

“The more people I talk to and I talk to lots of people as a Therapist, I can hear the panic starting to gurgle to the top. People are worried about how they will manage being in spaces with other human beings after so long, being home mostly alone. Young children are worried about leaving their parents, worried that something bad will happen if they go out or if they “bring home a bug.”

by Beth Niernberg, from Permission.To.Human on, March 16, 2021

She offers some suggestions that we can consider applying to our lives. I am going to offer an abbreviated list:

  • I have been suggesting to my clients and friends that they might try making some lists or having family brainstorming sessions about the things we lost and the things we gained, what we want back and what we don’t, rituals we want to keep, and burdens we wish to dump. 
  • When things begin to change we will all be called upon to manifest some energy we don’t actually have right now. I suggest that we all start moving a bit more than last week and then a bit more the week after that. 
  • Many kids are sorely out of practice around bedtime and wake time so starting now will help a lot. Regulating eating habits will help too. 
  • Consumption of media is off the charts for kids and adults alike, starting to pull back by setting an example yourself will help. Family movie night or watching TV together is better than kids binging season after season of Gilmore Girls alone in their rooms. Making it a family challenge to decrease your screen time with a reward at the end might help those with a competitive streak.
  • Being patient with yourself may allow you to be more empathetic with those around you. Preparing for change may make it more manageable but do expect tension and short tempers. Plan some built in down time till people in your house reach some normal level of stamina. 

For me, I am starting to think about the first time I plan to invite people to my new home in the next few months. What will this mean for me, what makes me anxious and what can I do to alleviate this stress. Because I want to feel like I did before we all stayed home, but I am going to practice some self-compassion when my anxiety tells me otherwise. I can hope the same for you.

Continue reading May I Suggest We All Practice? by Beth Niernberg, from Permission.To.Human on, March 16, 2021 Passive Job Seeking (Even When You Love Your Job!)

Read Passive Job Seeking (Even When You Love Your Job!) by Eileen Hoenigman Meyer, from, March 16, 2021

This should have been the headline for this article:

[J]obs are not like romantic relationships. It’s not disloyal to keep one eye open while we’re happily engaged in a professional role.

We should all prioritize our own career trajectories. Whether we’re in a job we love (or sometimes not), that is no guarantee that we’ll have the same job security that keeps us in love. Consider passive job searching like window shopping – you may never try on what you see, but it’s helpful to know what’s fashionable and widely available right now. And if you’re made to feel disloyal, that’s a great indication you should find a place that doesn’t make loyalty a job requirement.

The author Eileen Hoenigman Meyer offers the following tips for the passive job-seeker:

Take Stock of Where You Are Now

“Reviewing and revising your materials offers an opportunity to take stock of where you are in your current role, noting what you’ve learned, what new responsibilities you’ve assumed, what committees you’ve served, and any new roles or responsibilities you’ve absorbed.”

Update Your Social Media & Network

“[R]evisit your LinkedIn profile and to reach out to colleagues and contacts with whom you’ve been working. Maintaining your network is especially important during the isolation of quarantine when you don’t have the usual social outlets that come with working in the office. Finding ways to stay engaged and involved is helpful. Networking is important among these.”

Get Ahead and Organize

“[O]rganize your search by: 1) preparing documents ahead of time, 2) reading through job descriptions to find those that are a good match with their education/experience, 3) researching whether the institution would be a ‘good fit’ for them, and 4) dedicating time in the week to solely focus on the job search.”

One benefit I found by window-shopping jobs was learning that I didn’t have current technology skills – like using social media apps or design apps. Taking the time to add this skill took the pressure off learning the skill mid-search and added to my current position.

Continue reading Passive Job Seeking (Even When You Love Your Job!) by Eileen Hoenigman Meyer, from, March 16, 2021

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