A year ago, I was working on the manuscript of my book, Tales of a Displaced Worker. I found articles online that described the feelings I had about the college closing as job-loss grief. They described the pain in a way that helped me understand that the grief I was experiencing was common. It had a process. And ultimately, it had an ending.
I believe that many people are experiencing a collective sense of grief. Below are a few of the quotes from the article by Scott Barinato and David Kessler on how to name these feelings and move forward.
HBR: People are feeling any number of things right now. Is it right to call some of what they’re feeling grief?
Kessler: Yes, and we’re feeling a number of different griefs. We feel the world has changed, and it has. We know this is temporary, but it doesn’t feel that way, and we realize things will be different. The loss of normalcy; the fear of economic toll; the loss of connection. This is hitting us and we’re grieving. Collectively. We are not used to this kind of collective grief in the air.By Scott Barinato, Harvard Business Review, March 23, 2020
What can individuals do to manage all this grief?
Understanding the stages of grief is a start. But whenever I talk about the stages of grief, I have to remind people that the stages aren’t linear and may not happen in this order.By Scott Barinato, Harvard Business Review, March 23, 2020
What do you say to someone who’s read all this and is still feeling overwhelmed with grief?
Keep trying. There is something powerful about naming this as grief. It helps us feel what’s inside of us. So many have told me in the past week, “I’m telling my coworkers I’m having a hard time,” or “I cried last night.” When you name it, you feel it and it moves through you. Emotions need motion.By Scott Barinato, Harvard Business Review, March 23, 2020